yeas:

[trigger warning for ableism, mentions of rape culture, sexual assault, queer and gender variant erasure, slut shaming]

Hey! I feel the need to give some constructive criticism on yesterday’s event so that your organizers can learn from their mistakes and how to make next year’s SlutWalk even better.

I felt that SlutWalk was very inaccessible, in a few different ways. There’s no way that you can please everybody, of course, but it’s important to be mindful of how a lack of certain plans can become disastrous in turning theory into praxis. 

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cgdageek:

if violence is never the answer, then why is it ok for a man to threaten the violent act of rape?

oh, because you don’t think rape is a violent act.

gotcha.

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tommyxvx:

doctorsheldoncooperforthewin:

doctorsheldoncooperforthewin:

doctorsheldoncooperforthewin:

i’m just going to say that i’m uncomfortable with making the rape culture discussion all about guys. if that makes me a man hating feminist scum then okay. whatever. i haven’t cared about followers in forever, so this isn’t about losing or gaining them, although i’ll probably lose them. it just….*deep sighs* i’ve been trying to be eloquent about this and not just angry all day and i don’t think i can do it. i really don’t. people of privilege have to step in and steal everything. women can’t have anything of their own. men like to come and steal it. ‘Rape culture is about me you guys!’ disclaimer- i’m not claiming that men can’t get raped so can we all stop talking about that? i’m claiming that rape itself is something deeply rooted in misogyny, the hatred of women,so at the outset, this problem, rape culture, is not about how MEN are really the victims.

typically, can we agree that men are privileged? have we regressed so far out of orbit that we think men have to live in fear? i can’t have sex, really, without it being unsafe. maybe that’s because i have casual sex, who knows. or maybe it’s me just feeling unsafe and being too oversensitive. but not being able to suck dick without a hand pushing me down without my consent, not being able to have people touch me without them doing it like they see in male-gaze porn and hurting me. forgetting to ask me before doing this or that and switching it up, and it turns out that i didn’t want to do that but i’m not vocal enough to speak up before the surprise move happened.

i can’t walk around at school without the whistles, the subtle way young wyoming Cowboys act around women, though i’m not sexy and i won’t pretend i am. this is sort of a way to mock fatness. catcalling can be a traumatic experience for me, and it should be, because it reminds me that my body is not my own. one of the first feminist things i wrote about on tumblr was a guy who rubbed his dick up against me three times at a nightclub and me having to scream, after asking politely twice, for him to stop. i just have the bad feeling that he would be like tommyxvx, one of the men on here talking about how rape culture is totally about them.

and men saying rape culture is about them wouldn’t even be a problem if they didn’t do it every time women speak up about rape culture, and if it wasn’t about telling us to shut up, or telling us that drinking milk is JUST LIKE what happened to us. we would know, they say. because men can get raped too.

yes, men *can get raped*, too, as no one has ever denied. but that doesn’t mean the threat of rape hangs over men like it does women. sorry, it just…it doesn’t. men don’t have to worry about being cat-called and having rape flashbacks for the grand crime of going to the store for some groceries. men don’t have to worry about the fact that the next time they want to give head, it could turn into rape because porn has taught men that it’s totally acceptable to push womens’ heads down on their cocks without consent. men don’t have to deal with the repurcussions of not wanting to have sex with someone like women do.

i’m deeply disturbed by what happened today. by the men who told me i am a rapist because i drink milk. by the men who intentionally shoved that in my face. and then they centered rape culture on themselves. sorry, but no. i can’t be a part of a movement that does this. i can’t. it’s disturbing. it’s bad. it’s wrong.

rape culture is not about how men are the victims, and i’m tired of hearing men bring this up every time a woman speaks up about it, and only to shut her up.

i want people to read this so i’m reblogging it.

his timing of saying that he was molested seventeen years ago is nothing but centering hte ‘rape culture’ discussion around cis-males. i’m sorry but, yeah. there’s the fact that he said that bc i brought up being triggered by the implication that i am a rapist for drinking milk.

Yo, seriously. What the fuck is wrong with you? What fucking psychosis afflicts you to such an extent where you have to make yourself the victim in every single fucking discussion? 

NO ONE said that rape culture is centered around men. No one is trying to make it centered on men. It isn’t, it never was and it never will be. That doesn’t mean that certain aspects of rape culture don’t affect men in ways distinct from how it affects women. I couldn’t go to anyone because nothing would have come from it. I had no proof by the time it occurred to me to do so. That affects males AND females. I couldn’t tell the people closest to me because gender roles dictate that “real men” can’t get raped because being dominated like that is emasculating and that’s something that, as a cis-gendered woman, probably wouldn’t affect you. You’re right, for the most part rape culture is predominantly something that impacts women, but when a male-bodied person becomes a rape victim, certain parts of rape culture play a role in that rape’s erasure.

That’s what rape culture is. That’s what you’re doing.

NO ONE said that drinking a glass of milk is equal to literal rape. What we are saying, you simple fuck, is that rape is inherent in the dairy industry. By supporting the dairy industry, you are supporting the rape inherent in it. It’s about supply and demand. How are you not understand that? You just keep insisting that you’re a rape victim and so you’re above reproach and that’s fucking bullshit. Being raped is not an excuse to participate in rape culture. I would think that, as a rape victim, you’re the LAST person I should have to explain this to.

NO ONE compared animals to people of color besides you. You are the ONLY person in this entire exchange that even brought ethnicity into the equation. Read the next sentence very carefully:

SLAVERY EXISTED BEFORE COLONIAL AMERICA AND THE ENSLAVEMENT OF AFRICAN AMERICANS WAS ONLY ONE INSTANCE OF IT.

You are insisting on calling the comparison between animals and slaves (which is fucking accurate, you ignorant fuck) racist and it isn’t because slavery transcends ethnicity. I don’t understand how you aren’t absorbing that.

Seriously, you are the worst and most ignorant person I’ve ever encountered on the internet. I’m not exaggerating even a little bit.

That’s fucking saying something.

Bravo doctorsheldoncooperforthewin, you are an absolute shit excuse for a human being. You are so fucking self-centered, I could die.
You shit your fucking pants and threw a fit all over the internet when a general statement about dairy and rape triggered you, and you have the gall to personally call out Tommy for having the courage to discuss his rape for the first time? Talk about fucking triggering.
Fuck you so much. If I could hate you into oblivion, I would.
Rape is a rape survivors issue, not a womens issue. And rape culture does not only affect women. Rape culture is about a society that condones rape, accuses the survivor of being a liar, makes survivors afraid to tell anyone what happened to them. Cis-male survivors have just as much stigma around being raped as women do, and I’ve watched the accusations of lying come at Tommy on my dashboard, and I’ve watched it happen to other cis-male survivors that I know. Cis-men can experience rape culture, because every single fucking survivor is subjected to rape culture.

God, fuck you so much. You are the worst goddamn person.

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safercampus:

lawsonry:

**Trigger Warning** Rape apologists, rape naysayers, rape deniers

Mr. What About The Men
“The real problem here is all these false rape accusations that are destroying our society! 90 million men are falsely accused of rape every second! A woman just has to sort of mumble a word starting with ‘r’ and a man instantly gets a life sentence! There are no instances on record of a woman actually being raped!”

Ms. Tough Girl
“If women would learn martial arts—70-year-olds and women with disabilities can do this if they put their minds to it, darnit—and carry weapons everywhere, no one would ever get raped! All you have to do is be ready to threaten your own friends and lovers with lethal force at any moment, any anyone who can’t do that must be weak or something.”

Mr. Model Victims Only Please
“The victim was no angel herself. If you look at her record, she’s been arrested several times, she’s a single mother, and she’s living on welfare. So it’s not like she was some innocent little virgin beforehand. None of this makes it right, but I’m just saying, let’s not overreact like a good woman got ruined.”

Ms. Fashion Police
“Did you hear what she was wearing? I’m sorry but that’s just not common sense. If you go out looking like a piece of meat, you have to expect you’ll get treated like a piece of meat.”

Mr. I’m Not Blaming Her But It’s Her Fault
“Rape is never the victim’s fault, of course. But I just want people to admit that she has some responsibility. That she maybe played a part in it. That in an alternate universe where she’d done things differently and she lived in a steel Battlemech wearing a chastity belt, she wouldn’t have gotten raped, and she did make the choice to not use a Battlemech. I just need people to acknowledge that.”

Ms. Couples Therapy
“I dunno, seems to me like they both made mistakes. Maybe he just wasn’t reading her signals, or maybe she wasn’t communicating clearly to him. A lot can get caught up in an emotional moment like that and I bet they both feel really bad right now.”

Mr. Offensive And/Or Baffling Metaphor
“Look, if you walk down a dark alley with a wallet stuffed full of money, sure it’s still a crime when you get mugged, but what if the mugger is just trying to feed his family because he was laid off by an evil solicitor and the ghost showed him a lone crutch leaning in the corner?”

Ms. CSI
“If you put the pieces together, her story just doesn’t wash. She claims that he ripped her pants off, but her pants have a button fly. Ha! And she waited a whole forty minutes after the supposed rape to call the police—who would do that?”

Mr. Troll
“lol bitch deserved it loooollll”

Ms. You Don’t Just Get To Decide Whether You Consent
“She was seen earlier in the night drinking with this guy, talking to him, and even making out with him! And then she went up to his apartment! What did she think would happen? No one ever goes to a guy’s apartment unless they’re consenting to every sex act he could possibly want.”

Mr. How Do I Not Rape Someone It Is So Difficult
“I just don’t understand how to tell if someone is ‘consenting’ or not. What if she secretly decides she doesn’t like it—am I a rapist then? What if she changes her mind midway through? Or afterwards? It’s impossible to know what women want, so how am I supposed to know if they want to have sex with me or not?”

Ms. Traditional Values
“You know, back when women dressed modestly and simply didn’t go out drinking with strangers or going home with people they’d just met, this sort of thing didn’t happen.”

Mr. This Wouldn’t Happen If Women Would Just Fuck Me Already
“This sort of thing is inevitable when women constantly act as gatekeepers and doom beta males to a life of frustration and loneliness. Of course rape is horrible, but the pent-up rage felt by men cast aside just because they weren’t billionaire underwear models has to express itself somehow.”

Ms. Avoid The R-Word
“Wow, that is just not cool. Having sex under those circumstances—I mean, treating a girl like that—you know, being inappropriate with her—is a totally insensitive and downright mean thing to do.”

(Source: the Pervocracy)

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